The American writer and poet E.E Cummings said that “It takes courage to grow into who you really are”.
I have spent a lifetime trying to discover who I really am, and I can say that now, in the middle of my life, I have finally discovered myself and I am delighted to know myself and I am proud of who I am.
The time and place you are born conditions you, the family you grow up in, the school, the neighbourhood, your circle of friends, even the house you live in. Childhood and adolescence are key moments in the life of every human being, they can direct your path in one direction or another, and you have to be strong and self-confident enough not to let yourself be taken to places you don’t really want to go, with people who don’t suit you or who use you for their projects, forgetting your own.
This can happen because they have not known how to love you, because they have not given you the security you needed, because you have not known how to communicate how you feel for fear of rejection or being laughed at, so you show your environment that everything is going well, that you are fine, that you are who they think you are and you do what is expected of you. And what plans do you have for yourself? You have probably forgotten them, putting others before yourself.
Be aware of how you feel: sad, anxious, empty, lonely even when you are surrounded by people? Do you suffer because you have trouble relating and need the approval, affection, acceptance of others to feel safe or secure?
I’ll tell you a secret: this has a solution!